Have you been settling for “good enough?”
In your wedding business?
In your life?
I spent a few days with my friend having adventures around New York City.
She has a good job, a good relationship, a good life.
Except when she says, “good,” what she means is more like “not bad.”
“I don’t mind it. It’s okay.”
Where did we learn to create a life we’re “okay” with?
We talked about what else could be possible for her future. Right now, she’s comfortable (except she isn’t – anxiety and resentment are daily companions) and all the other options look unpromising and uncertain.
From where I’m standing, I can see SO MUCH ELSE that’s possible. But she’d have to lift her head and ask some questions to be able to glimpse it.
What would be fun?
If you could do anything, what would you do?
What would be so inspiring to do that you’d even love to fail in the attempt?
If you knew you couldn’t fail, how would you be living right now? What would you do with your time?
It seems to me there are two strategies for experiencing happiness. One creates happiness now (right in this moment) and the other makes it sustainable.
#1 – Take joy in what you do, have and be.
When you’re miserable or numbed into the (tolerable) status quo, it can be really hard to think outside that into a brighter future.
Everything begins to change when you start being joy now, and that begins with acceptance of this moment.
What can you be grateful for?
A daily habit of writing down five things you’re grateful for or practicing random acts of kindness can start the shift that changes everything.
All of us have tasks we loathe. (Mine is folding the laundry and doing anything bookkeeping.)
What would it take to be joyful in that task?
This moment holds the key to happiness if we’re willing to ask a question and choose something different.
#2 – Do, have and be what brings you joy.
What would be the most joyful thing you could do right now?
It might be breaking out in a spontaneous dance.
Maybe it’s going for a walk.
Snuggling with your cat.
Taking a nap or a long bath.
Whatever it is, choose it.
We create a happy future through choosing happiness in the present in whatever we choose to be and do.
It’s simple, but not necessarily easy.
And it begins with today. Now.
Would you like to create something joyful in your life?
Yours in creative play,